Why do men have affairs when they pretend to be satisfied and committed to their wife and family or partner? Well, if there was one answer to this question then a lot of affairs would be avoided and a lot of marriages and families would be kept together. Although there isn't just one thing you can point to there are some known reasons why men choose to have affairs.
The simple answer why men commit adultery is because many cheaters are selfish. They tend to think about what they want instead of what they need. I don't know if it has something to do with the way they were raised or a learned behavior. Either way it's a "me first" mentality.
It makes you scratch your head when you think about how some men throw away everything for what they perceive as unbridled passion. What they fail to do is weigh the cost of that unleashed passion or hormones. I can't prove it but I would bet that most men realize when it's all said and done and they have ripped the heart out of their partner and kids that it wasn't worth it.
So why are so many men having affairs?
Well unfortunately one of the contributing factors in why so many men are having affairs is because they can. There are two things that tend to increase the odds of men cheating. One is opportunity and the other is a significant number of women willing to help them be unfaithful.
Now, please don't take this the wrong way. I'm not making excuses for any man who decides to commit adultery. A man who cheats makes that bad choice all on his own. However, he has to have a willing mistress to actually go through with the affair. There are just too many women who knowingly make themselves available for would be cheaters.
Besides the numerous women men have to entangle themselves with there is opportunity. Many men are given too much freedom to go and come as they please with no accountability to their spouse or partner. I'm not suggesting that men have electronic bracelets on with their wife or partner having a GPS read out on their whereabouts. However, if a guy can leave the house before sunrise, return after sunset and hangout with his buddies on the weekend, he has too much opportunity too be unfaithful.
So what about your marriage or relationship? Are you concerned that your soul-mate is having an affair or has had one?
Why might your man be cheating?
Perhaps your partner has a big ego and thinks that his flirting and playing with other women's emotions is a way of validating his attractiveness. Sometimes husbands want to make sure that they still have it altogether. Unfortunately, very often what starts out as a game turns into something much more destructive.
Another reason why your guy might be cheating or thinking about it is because he is unhappy with the physical or emotional state of your relationship. Very often men seek out and find someone who can fulfill their needs. Instead of taking the steps to change the dynamics of their relationship they think it's easier to have an affair. Again, thinking with their hormones and not their head or heart.
There are some men who already believe that their relationship is over and thus cheating is that last act to push it over the edge. It's a selfish act but what faster way to bring a relationship to an end than by cheating. In a sense it's a way to expedite the process.
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