If you have been dumped of late and feel you have been dealt a rotten hand you are not on your own, you may be relieved to discover it is quite common. Nevertheless this does not make it any the less painful especially when you are not expecting it and confused to the reasons why. If you stick around in the next few minutes you are going to determine not only why this turned out like this but to be able to steer clear of this embarrassing situation taking place ever again.
Let's face it with life in a negative society and continually under financial pressure to make ends meet. However, this is allegedly the most common mistake that couples make is to introduce this negativity into our relationships. There are no benefits here and a sure way to get dumped. It's okay to discuss our problems on occasions but to continually off load all this garbage on our loved ones is not fair. Let's be honest if we started out that way we would have not got past the first date right? So dump the negative thoughts in the garbage and find something to be grateful for. At times we all need to discuss our problems with our partners after all a problem shared is a problem halved right? However there is a massive difference between discussing a problem and complaining about it. Fact every product created started out as a thought or and idea we can create our own world by controlling the way we think.
To listen is a technique that we all blessed with but amazingly enough it is hardly ever used even though this is arguably the most powerful tool to have in your repertoire to avoid getting dumped. We all think we are good listeners right? But if you were cast your mind back to conversations you had with your ex can you remember the questions you asked? What were you talking about? Did you allow your ex to make the point without interrupting? Did you make your ex feel better at the end of the conversation? Listening is something that is essential to avoid getting dumped.
Quality time what is this and how much time should we spend with our partners in order not to get dumped? The answer is simple if you value your relationship you have to make a special effort to be generous with the time you spend with your partner. Turn off the TV and go out for a walk or whatever you feel is the right thing to do with your partner to inspire him or her.
Are you a romantic? If your not you need to address this if you want to avoid getting dumped time after time. A relationship that lacks romance is not really going anywhere. You don't have to make much effort to stimulate romance in your relationship. The chances are you must have started out that way that feeling of passion obsession that most people experience at the start of a relationship why would you not want to retain this feeling? You don't have to go to any extremes just the odd surprise really works.
Let's go over the main points, look for solutions to your problems in a positive way. You can learn more by listening and don't be selfish, be generous with your time for your partner and finally don't forget the romance that is the back bone of a relationship.
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